It’s normal for things to go differently than you planned. That happens to all of us. Although the type and severity of hardship we experience can be different for everyone, just know that you’re not the odd one out.
The truth is, we can’t be in control of everything all the time. The more you can learn to roll with the punches, the less you’ll be stressed out when something goes wrong.
Lower your expectations and increase your appreciation in moments where you have little control. Focus more on what you can control, yourself.
And if you are the one who messes up, learn your lesson and move on. As author Naomi Levi says, “Treat your mistakes with kindness. See them as steps toward learning and growth.”
If this whole changing your perspective stuff sounds out of character for you, keep in mind:
“If you want to live a life you’ve never lived, you have to do things you’ve never done.”
- Jen Sincero
We can’t expect our lives to change without first changing ourselves! This was the hardest lesson for me to learn in my teens, I actually wrote more about what helped me go from suicidal to full of life in my most popular book, It's the Depression for Me.
You can turn your luck around! Start taking action, and appreciating what life offers you, both good and bad. Those experiences and how you respond are what will shape your character.